Tyler has been having a rough time lately so I thought it might be good to take him on a little Mommy and Son date on Saturday morning. We got a donut and then went to the store to find him some shoes and look at toys (he still doesn't fully realize that you can buy toys at the store...he thinks you just look, play and then put back...I love it). On the way home he said he wanted to go through the car wash. Once we got there, he started crying and saying that he wanted to go home instead, so I pulled away from the car wash and headed toward the exit. "NOOOO!!! CAR WASH!!!" Because he's been having such a hard time lately, I decided to turn around and head back...after all, we were on a date plus I hadn't even exited the parking lot. Big surprise, once we got close to the automatic wash there were tears again, "No! Go Home! Go Home!" I headed for the exit once again and he because completely hysterical, "MOMMY! CAR WASH! CAR WASH!!" I explained that he told me he didn't want to go so now we are going home and that next time we can go if he doesn't cry.
I wouldn't even share this story if it hadn't happened a million times about different subjects over the past few days. Tom and I have been chalking his emotionalness up to being two and having a new baby brother but I have to say that we're both a little stressed. We feel badly that he's been unhappy and we don't know how to make it better. I will say that this morning it was a lot better. He was happy to play and even gave Baby Mike a few hugs and kisses. However, our church schedule changed to the late afternoon so he missed his nap and had a huge meltdown before bed tonight (huge is an understatement).
I know that as he gets more used to sharing the attention with Baby Mike things will get better but until then life around here is a little rocky.
Do any of you experienced parents have words of wisdom for us?
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Yeah, we've had many days/experiences like this through the years (crazy that I can say "years" when talking about my kids). Just keep Tyler involved with things you're doing with Mike. And keep having one-on-one time with him. (I'm positive you're already doing these things...) Jackson is only just really liking Evan...he hasn't ever been mean to him, but he doesn't like it when Evan "touches" him. Now he gives him hugs and kisses and loves when he can make Evan smile. I wish we could get these crazy boys together!!
I found that it helped with Paul if he had a "job" around the house, especially to help with the baby(ies). He was in charge of bringing me pacifiers when the babies cried. Of course he didn't have to if he didn't want to, but he liked to feel needed. I've also found that even with very young children it helps to try to figure out what's wrong. Ask very specific questions and he just might be able to answer. Maybe he wanted to go through the car wash, but he was scared. They have a hard time working out their feelings and even figuring out what they're feeling. My biggest words of wisdom, though, are "this, too, shall pass" :)
Ahhhhhh maaaaaan!
When I went to the car wash last Saturday the door wouldn't open to let me out. I felt like screaming like Tyler did. Actually, I opened my door and yelled to the car behind me for HELP!
Gram
As the first born I can testify that the adjustment of a new sibling takes some time. It only took me about 28 years, but Tyler is a whole lot smarter than me, so the transition should be a bit quicker. Love the family blog!
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